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064: Divorce Coaching Explained: A Child-Centered Tool Parents Don’t Know They Need with Tracy Callahan

Divorce often pushes parents into survival mode. Legal strategy and emotional overwhelm take center stage, while children absorb the fallout quietly and deeply.
In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista explores a powerful but often misunderstood resource that helps parents navigate divorce more intentionally: divorce coaching.
Krista sits down with Tracy Callahan, co-founder of the Divorce Coaches Academy, certified divorce coach, and family mediator licensed in Florida and New York. Tracy brings decades of experience in alternative dispute resolution and a deeply child-centered lens shaped by both professional practice and personal parenting experience. Krista and Tracy unpack what divorce coaching actually is and, just as importantly, what it is not.
The conversation reframes divorce coaching as a future-focused, action-oriented form of dispute resolution rather than therapy or advocacy warfare. Tracy explains how divorce coaching helps parents regulate emotions, understand conflict dynamics, and develop communication skills that reduce escalation and protect children from being caught in the middle. Rather than reliving the past, divorce coaching emphasizes intentional decision-making, personal accountability, and preparing parents to participate more effectively in mediation, settlement discussions, and co-parenting.
Krista and Tracy also address common misconceptions, including the belief that divorce coaches exist to help parents “fight harder.” In reality, the work centers on minimizing emotional and financial damage, supporting conversations that matter, and helping parents shift from positional thinking to child-focused problem solving. They highlight how unmanaged conflict—not divorce itself—creates lasting harm for children, often with generational consequences.
Tracy shares insight into how divorce coaching complements legal representation, saves time and money, and helps parents stop using attorneys and courts as emotional outlets. The episode offers clarity for parents, professionals, and anyone working in family law who wants better outcomes for children navigating two homes.
In this episode, you will hear:
Divorce coaching as a child-centered dispute resolution tool
Clear distinctions between divorce coaching, therapy, and legal advocacy
The impact of unresolved parental conflict on children
Emotional regulation as a foundation for effective co-parenting
Future-focused decision-making during divorce
Support divorce coaching provides in mediation and legal processes
Shifting away from win–lose thinking toward family stability
Resources from this Episode
www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
www.mediating-matters.com
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 
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063: Co-Parenting Over the Holidays, with Dr. Marlene Bizub

The holidays can bring joy, excitement, and meaningful traditions, but for separated and divorced families, they can also amplify stress, conflict, and emotional overload.
In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista explores how parents can navigate holiday schedules, shifting expectations, new traditions, and blended-family dynamics in a way that truly protects children’s emotional well-being. Dr. Marlene Bizub draws on nearly three decades of working with court-involved families to unpack why the season feels so intense and what parents can do differently to create calmer, healthier holidays.
Dr. Bizub and Krista talk through the issues that emerge every December, from split-day disasters to extended-family tensions, gift-giving challenges, travel disruptions, and the grief children often feel beneath the surface. Dr. Bizub offers practical strategies parents can act on right now, along with long-term guidance on flexibility, communication, and taking the high road. Whether you’re newly separated or years into co-parenting, this episode provides grounded, child-centered guidance for navigating the holidays more peacefully.
Dr. Marlene Bizub, a longtime psychologist working with court-involved families, shares her expertise on creating healthy traditions, supporting children through grief, and setting realistic expectations during the holidays. She highlights what children genuinely need, how parents can avoid emotional pitfalls, and why kindness creates lasting goodwill.
This episode reminds parents that even small changes in approach can transform the holidays for their children and for themselves.
In this episode, you will hear:
Emotional pressures that intensify holidays for co-parents
The shift from rigid expectations to child-centered planning
Why avoiding split-day celebrations smooths the season for kids
Fresh ideas for building new, meaningful traditions
Approaches that help blended families adjust at their own pace
Thoughts on birthdays, gift-giving, and extended-family involvement
Flexibility strategies for travel delays, illness, and disrupted plans
How generosity and cooperation create long-term goodwill
Nonverbal communication patterns that shape a child’s experience
Ways parents can find support and care for themselves during the holidays
Resources from this Episode
www.amazon.com/Contentious-Custody-Really-Interest-Children/dp/1941870724
open.spotify.com/show/4LJ9Ey2LemBeXfkh4wNauv
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 
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062: Top Reasons Parents Lose Custody in Colorado — And How to Protect Your Parenting Time

In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista breaks down the leading reasons parents lose custody or experience restrictions on parenting time in Colorado.
Drawing on her work as a child advocate and family law attorney, Krista explains how judges evaluate safety, stability, mental health, and co-parenting behaviors when deciding on parental responsibilities. She also reminds listeners that “losing custody” in Colorado rarely means a permanent loss of parental rights. Instead, it typically reflects temporary limits tied to a child’s best interests.
Krista walks through the three most common categories that lead courts to restrict parenting time—safety concerns, parental unfitness or instability, and damaging co-parenting behavior. She illustrates each category with case patterns she has seen repeatedly in child advocacy work, including emotional abuse, unmanaged mental health issues, and behavior that undermines the child’s relationship with the other parent. She emphasizes that Colorado courts prioritize the child’s emotional and physical safety above all else, and that parents who take proactive steps, such as treatment, stable routines, and appropriate communication, can protect or rebuild their parenting time.
For parents, professionals, and supporters, this episode serves as a clear and practical guide to navigating Colorado custody cases while centering children’s well-being.
In this episode, you will hear:
Safety issues that lead judges to restrict parenting time
Behaviors that courts view as instability or parental unfitness
Patterns of harmful co-parenting that damage custody outcomes
Practical steps parents can take to protect and rebuild time with their children
Resources from this Episode
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 
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061: Divorce & Money: Why it Matters for Kids, with Divorce Finance Expert, Todd Huetner

In this episode of the Children First Family Law® podcast, Krista opens the first installment of a recurring series on divorce and money, an area she rarely tackles but one that powerfully shapes children’s lives. To launch the series, she welcomes Colorado-based mortgage and divorce finance expert Todd Huetner, known nationally as the “divorce CFO.” With more than two decades of experience in lending, divorce finance, and collaborative family law, Todd guides families and professionals through the financial realities of housing decisions during separation and divorce.
Krista frames the conversation around a simple truth: housing stability profoundly influences children’s well-being. Whether parents keep the home, sell it, or relocate, financial planning directly affects where children sleep, how often they move, and whether parents can sustainably maintain two households. Todd explains that families often wait too long to explore housing options, which can limit choices, increase stress, and lead to preventable long-term consequences. Beginning early gives parents time to identify credit issues, gather documentation, understand real options, and reduce the fear that comes from not knowing what lies ahead.
Todd breaks down five common types of income that affect the ability to assume or refinance a mortgage in divorce: earned income, retirement/investment income, court-ordered support, co-signers, and creative trust structures. He explains how temporary maintenance, even at a very low amount, can start critical qualification timelines. He also addresses widespread misconceptions, such as the belief that a loan cannot be assumed, taking advice from lenders who provide incomplete information, and assuming a disadvantaged spouse cannot qualify for a mortgage. Many families unknowingly leave life-changing opportunities on the table.
Krista and Todd also discuss the real impact of relocation. When a parent cannot afford to remain in a community, the resulting move can disrupt children’s support systems, educational stability, and relationship with the other parent. Todd notes that short-term strategies, like staying in the home for a limited period, delaying a move, or restructuring assets creatively, can preserve options while reducing the likelihood of multiple relocations.
In the second half of the conversation, Todd turns to professionals—attorneys, mediators, and mental health experts—who often unintentionally limit their clients’ options by relying on assumptions or failing to understand how mortgage underwriting works. He emphasizes the importance of early consultation, correct terminology, precise drafting in separation agreements, and asking the right questions rather than the most obvious ones. A small oversight can cost a family tens of thousands of dollars or eliminate the possibility of homeownership entirely.
This episode gives parents and professionals a roadmap to approaching financial and housing decisions with clarity, creativity, and an eye toward children’s long-term stability.
In this episode, you will hear:
Early steps that expand housing options during divorce
Types of income lenders can (and can’t) use during mortgage qualification
Hidden pitfalls in assumptions, refinancing, and temporary maintenance
How relocation pressures affect children when housing decisions go wrong
Resources from this Episode
www.thedivorcecfo.com
denverdivorceprofessionals.com
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 
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060: Tech Tools for Coparents: Our Family Wizard App with Child Advocate Elle Barr

In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista continues the tech tools for coparents series with a deep dive into Our Family Wizard, one of the most established and widely adopted communication platforms in family law. She interviews Elle Barr, a former family law attorney, longtime guardian ad litem, and current Education Coordinator at Our Family Wizard, who brings more than two decades of child-focused legal experience to her work.
Elle explains how the platform’s design grew out of real-world family law challenges and why its features matter for reducing conflict, creating clarity, and strengthening the co-parenting relationship. She walks through how tools like messaging, the shared calendar, expense tracking, the Information Bank, ToneMeter AI, journal entries, third-party accounts, and documented audio/video calls are intentionally built to improve communication and protect children from the stress of unmanaged conflict.
Krista and Elle also discuss the importance of predictable documentation, the role professionals can play through their own linked accounts, and how transparent tools often prevent unnecessary litigation. Elle breaks down subscription tiers, fee waivers for families who qualify, and how Our Family Wizard supports parents navigating high-conflict situations, domestic violence restrictions, supervised contact, dependency matters, and everyday scheduling needs.
Whether listeners are parents, practitioners, or professionals supporting families in transition, this episode highlights how thoughtful technology can give structure, support, and accountability during and after separation. Elle’s child-centered experience and practical guidance offer a clear look at what effective co-parenting tools can accomplish when used consistently.
In this episode, you will hear:
Tools inside Our Family Wizard that support clearer communication and documentation
How ToneMeter AI guides parents toward calmer, more respectful messaging
Ways the shared calendar, expense tracking, and Information Bank create reliability
Why documented calls and transcripts help in cases involving safety concerns
Resources from this Episode
www.ourfamilywizard.com
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 
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059: Seeing Families Clearly: Understanding Neurodiversity in Family Law with Meggin Rutherford

In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista welcomes Meggin Rutherford, a Colorado attorney, mediator, and parenting coordinator whose professional work and personal experience give her a unique perspective on neurodiversity in family law. As an attorney with autism and ADHD, Meggin shares how understanding neurodivergent families can transform the way attorneys, judges, and parents approach custody, parenting plans, and co-parenting relationships.
Drawing from her own journey as well as her work with families navigating autism, ADHD, and other neurodivergent experiences, Meggin explains how the legal system’s “one-size-fits-all” model often fails these families. She emphasizes the need for individualized parenting plans, reduced transitions for children, and clear decision-making structures that account for each child’s unique neurobiological wiring.
Krista and Meggin discuss the difference between neurodiversity (the natural variation in how brains function) and mental health disorders, and why those distinctions matter when building parenting plans and advocating for children’s needs. They also explore how professionals can better support neurodivergent families through education, collaboration, and flexible approaches that prioritize each child’s comfort and security.
Meggin offers powerful analogies, such as comparing neurodiverse brains to Linux operating systems, to help listeners grasp how neurodivergent children experience the world. She also highlights how unrecognized neurodiversity in parents can influence family dynamics and decision-making during divorce. Her message is both practical and hopeful: when parents and professionals understand these differences, they can create plans that allow every child to thrive.
This conversation invites attorneys, mental health professionals, and parents alike to see families more clearly and to understand that labels, when embraced, can be empowering tools for support and belonging.
In this episode, you will hear:
The difference between neurodiversity and mental health disorders
Why neurodivergent families need customized parenting plans and reduced transitions
How shared decision-making can create challenges for families with neurodivergent children
The importance of professionals recognizing and accommodating neurodiverse parents and kids
Resources from this Episode
mrutherfordlaw.com/meggin
Resources for Families and ProfessionalsAutism:
Autism: A New Understanding – Verywell Magazine Special Edition
Uniquely Human by Barry Prizant, PhD
A Different Kind of Normal by Abigail Balfe
Strengths-Based Guide to Supporting Autistic Children by Claire O’Neill
ADHD:
How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe (book and YouTube)
The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene
ADHD 2.0 by Dr. Edward Hallowell and Dr. John Ratey
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 
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058: Coercive Control, Accountability & Custody — A Deep Dive with Nil Buckley

In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista welcomes Nil Buckley, a licensed professional counselor, licensed addiction counselor, and domestic violence clinical supervisor whose expertise bridges trauma-informed mental health, forensic evaluation, and family law. Nil is the founder of Vivas Counseling and Care Forensic Solutions and creator of The CARE Method, an evidence-based program now used in multiple states to support both survivors and offenders. Her background includes extensive work with the Colorado Department of Corrections, court-ordered treatment programs, and expert testimony in criminal and domestic relations cases.
Drawing from this deep professional experience, Nil joins Krista to explore how coercive control and its related forms, including legal abuse, financial manipulation, and psychological coercion, show up in custody cases and family court. She explains that there are now 24 recognized forms of abuse in the global research literature, yet many family law professionals still focus only on physical harm. Nil’s work seeks to change that by educating judges, attorneys, and mental health providers about the full spectrum of domestic violence and its impact on children.
The discussion also examines Colorado’s evolving domestic violence laws, such as Kayden’s Law, which aim to protect families better but can be challenging to implement consistently in court. Nil and Krista address the tension between holding offenders accountable and ensuring survivors aren’t further harmed by systems meant to safeguard them. They share real-world examples of how trauma, reactive behaviors, and legal complexity intersect in divorce and custody disputes and what professionals can do to create safer, more balanced outcomes.
This conversation launches a continuing series on domestic violence and coercive control, setting the stage for future episodes with Nil that will dive even deeper into the realities of abuse, accountability, and healing in family law.
In this episode, you will hear:
 
Expanding definitions of abuse beyond physical violence
How coercive control and legal abuse appear in custody disputes
Why trauma-informed evaluations matter in family law cases
The complexities of applying Kayden’s Law and related legislation
How professionals can balance accountability with survivor protection
The importance of continued education across courts and legal systems
 
Resources from this Episode
safersociety.org/nil-buckley-ma-lpc-lac-dvcs-ncc-acs
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 
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057: Creating a Child-Centered Parenting Plan: How to Build Predictability, Peace, and Emotional Safety After Divorce

In this solo episode of the Children First Family Law® podcast, Krista explores one of the most essential tools for helping children thrive after separation or divorce—a thoughtful, child-centered parenting plan. Drawing from years of experience as a family law attorney, mediator, and parenting coordinator, Krista explains how clarity, predictability, and flexibility can create emotional safety for children during family transitions.
She breaks down how to design developmentally appropriate parenting schedules from infancy through adolescence and explains why focusing on stability rather than strict equality best supports a child’s well-being. Krista also covers shared decision-making, communication strategies, managing holidays and vacations, handling new relationships, and addressing common pitfalls like technology use and “right of first refusal” clauses. Throughout the episode, she emphasizes that clarity is love, predictability is safety, and structure is one of the greatest gifts parents can give their children.
Krista closes the episode by previewing her upcoming 16-week Co-Parent Coaching Program, designed to help parents create peaceful, structured, and emotionally healthy co-parenting lives. This October episode is a roadmap for parents seeking to build a stable and cooperative foundation for their children, even amid the challenges of family restructuring.
In this episode, you will hear:
The core philosophy behind a peaceful, child-centered parenting plan
How to structure parenting schedules for different age groups
Ways to handle decision-making responsibilities without conflict
Communication strategies that foster cooperation and reduce tension
How to address holidays, vacations, and new relationships thoughtfully
The importance of predictability, emotional safety, and flexibility
Resources from this Episode
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 
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056: Living Together During Separation: Nesting and Early Transitions, with Coparenting Expert Christina McGhee

In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista sits down with Christina McGhee, a co-parenting expert, mediator, and author of “Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids.” Christina brings decades of experience helping families navigate the challenges of separation and divorce, offering practical strategies to support both parents and children during transitions.
Krista and Christina explore the concept of nesting, where parents temporarily share the same home after separation, allowing children to remain in one familiar environment. They discuss how nesting can help parents practice new roles, build trust, and gradually shift responsibilities, while highlighting common challenges such as establishing boundaries, managing expectations, and accommodating children’s preferences.
The conversation also delves into the importance of communication, routines, and consistency for children. Christina shares actionable guidance on setting expectations for “on duty” and “off duty” parenting, fostering healthy parent-child relationships, and preparing children for changes in family structure. They also address societal expectations around mothering and fathering, and the impact of premature introduction of new partners.
Throughout the episode, Christina emphasizes practical, grounded strategies parents can use to navigate co-parenting successfully. She highlights resources for parents, including her website and comprehensive guides, and emphasizes the importance of building resilience in children to cope with uncertainty and change. This episode offers a wealth of actionable insights for parents, professionals, and anyone supporting families through separation and divorce.
In this episode, you will hear:
What nesting involves and how it supports children during separation
Ways parents can keep boundaries clear while sharing space
Emotional and logistical realities of early co-parenting transitions
The role of communication and shared purpose in making nesting work
Situations where nesting may not serve a family well
How professionals can guide parents through early transition planning
Resources from this Episode
Christina McGhee, Divorce Parenting Expert, Trainer, Coach, Author, Education & Training Director: SPLIT Films – Divorce and Children, LLC
coparentingspecialist.com
divorceandchildren.com
Book: Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids
www.amazon.com/s?k=parenting+apart+christina+mcghee&crid=3T5BH29G1YY0&sprefix=parenting+apart%2Caps%2C163&ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-pd-dpltr-ranker_2_15
divorceandchildren.com/about-christina-mcghee
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 
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055: ACEs in the Family Law System - Protecting Children Through Advocacy and Awareness - Part 4 of a 4-Part Series

In this final episode of the four-part ACEs series on Children First Family Law, Krista dives into practical strategies for parents and professionals to support children through adverse experiences and the complex realities of family law. Building on earlier discussions about parental addiction, attachment, and trauma, Krista outlines ways parents can actively foster resilience and emotional security for their children, even when co-parenting challenges arise.
Krista emphasizes the importance of separating a child’s perception of a parent from the parent’s struggles. She shares creative approaches, such as building a library of videos of a parent reading or engaging with the child during periods of instability. By doing this, parents can validate their child’s connection with both caregivers, avoid reinforcing negative feelings, and promote stability and trust, even in difficult circumstances. Small rituals, predictable routines, affirming therapy, and engagement with activities like art or nature help children feel secure and supported, and demonstrate the power of consistent presence over conflict.
The episode also expands the focus to professionals in the family law system, including judges, attorneys, child advocates, and therapists. Krista outlines how the adversarial structure of courts can unintentionally exacerbate trauma for both children and parents, and how trauma-informed approaches grounded in safety, trust, choice, collaboration, and empowerment can mitigate harm. She highlights the need for trauma-informed language, empathy, and curiosity, both in interactions with families and in self-care for professionals navigating high-conflict cases.
Closing the series, Krista paints a vision for a family law system that prioritizes children’s safety, emotional security, and long-term resilience. By combining research on ACES, practical parenting strategies, and professional responsibility, she challenges parents and practitioners to reframe conflict as an opportunity to foster connection and healing. The episode reinforces that trauma-informed advocacy is not only possible. It is essential to shape outcomes that truly serve families and communities.
In this episode, you will hear:
How to foster attachment and resilience in children when one parent struggles with addiction
Practical strategies to maintain children’s connection to both parents through creative tools and predictable routines
The importance of trauma-informed approaches in the family law system
How small actions by parents and professionals can prevent new adverse childhood experiences
Ways professionals can shift from judgment to empathy, curiosity, and healing-centered advocacy
Resources from this Episode
www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com
All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 
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